One of Millions Continued Part 4

So what was it that “the one she trusted”(TOST) knew, about Pushpa’s health and future that everyone else was not aware of, including the doctors?

Indeed, Pushpa did have knee surgery, and it was not exactly life threatening. Yes, Pushpa’s recovery from knee surgery was slow. This was not unexpected, for a diabetic person of Pushpa’s age. Yet, before Pushpa’s knee surgery, TOST was convincingly telling everyone, Pushpa’s recovery time from knee surgery, would be 6 weeks at most. TOST told Pushpa, she would be up and walking in 6 weeks. Walking and well enough to travel and attend a family wedding, logically this was completely unrealistic. However, Pushpa was not convinced and neither were Pushpa’s other well wishing relatives. Everyone cautioned her against having knee surgery. Reminding Pushpa that her recovery time from such a surgery, would be longer for her than most, taking into consideration the fact that she was a diabetic. Pushpa’s well wishing relatives, suggested that she attend the family wedding first and then schedule the knee surgery.  In fact, one of Pushpa’s relatives had suggested that Pushpa attend the wedding and then consult with a doctor,for a second opinion. This doctor had helped and cured others with similar conditions.  Also, this doctor resided and practiced in the same city, where the wedding was taking place.

This was simply not what TOST wanted. So TOST frightened and bullied Pushpa, by screaming at her that it was now or never. Pushpa was told that it was unlikely that another appointment for knee surgery would ever be offered to her again. Now, Pushpa believed “the one she trusted”(TOST). Pushpa agreed to have the knee surgery as scheduled. TOST had convinced Pushpa that this was her one and only chance to walk normally again, without the assistance of a zimmer frame. TOST had once again successfully  played mind games with Pushpa for TOST’s own personal selfish reasons.

Pushpa had the knee surgery, and recovery was slow. She was placed in a care home. The dream of walking normally again, and attending the wedding, had been shattered. All Pushpa could do was cry.  Was this just Pushpa’s bad luck, or something else?

TOST attended and enjoyed the wedding. TOST explained, TOST could only attend the wedding festivities for a couple of days, because TOST could not, and would not bare the thought of leaving Pushpa alone, in the care home for any longer. After all, Pushpa needed TOST.

Surprisingly, within weeks after the wedding, with Pushpa conveniently still in a care home, needing TOST? TOST took off, on an extended vacation with close friends. Now, the thought of leaving Pushpa, alone in a care home for weeks did not seem to bother TOST at all. It was all quite bearable. Somehow, everything always managed to fall conveniently into to place, for TOST.

TOST’s priorities were and remain, TOST’s own personal needs and wants. TOST always managed to cunningly manipulate each and every situation, to TOST’s advantage. TOST’s controlling personality, kept Pushpa and other family members in check, flawlessly maintaining  TOST’s public image. In fact, TOST’s closest family members, described TOST as using “emotional blackmail.” Personalities like TOST’s will go to any length to get their own way.  This kind of behavior is very common of  abusive personalities.

What can seem like the perfectly together, happy household, from the outside, can turn out to be the perfectly unhinged, horrendously dysfunctional household,  behind closed doors. Thus, it is very difficult, almost impossible to tell that there is an abusive situation occurring, by simply just looking in, from the outside. One needs to be aware of the subtle signs to look for,and of course, one has to be looking.   


To be continued...