What is Elder Abuse?

"A single or repeated act or lack of appropriate action, occurring within any relationship where there is an expectation of trust, which causes harm or distress to an older person"
- http://www.elderabuse.org.uk/abuse.html

Friday, August 3, 2012

One of Millions Continued Part 11

One afternoon, Pushpa's well wishing relative from out of town sat at the hospital visiting with Pushpa, along with another well wishing relative.  During that visit Pushpa's well wishing relatives happened to over hear the nurses discussing Pushpa. From the nurses conversation, they gathered that Pushpa was ready to be released from the hospital, however, the hospital was awaiting a bed to become free in a care home. Pushpa's family, "the one she trusted"(TOST) did not wish to take her home. TOST had requested that Pushpa be placed in a care home. 


Pushpa's well wishing relatives, could not believe their ears. There had to be some sort of misunderstanding, perhaps the nurses were talking about somebody else. Pushpa's well wishing relatives decided to clarify the situation, they spoke to the nurses in person. The nurses confirmed that Pushpa's doctor was pleased with Pushpa's recovery from the amputation and had given the ok for Pushpa to be released from the hospital. The nurses also confirmed that TOST did not wish to take Pushpa home, TOST had given specific instructions to place Pushpa in a care home. 


Unable to comprehend what they were hearing, Pushpa's well wishing relatives proceeded to go to the administration department. Administration confirmed what the nurses had told Pushpa's well wishing relatives. Pushpa was ready to be released from the hospital. TOST did not wish to take Pushpa home and had given specific instructions to place Pushpa in a care home. Furthermore, the administration staff  told Pushpa's well wishing relatives that Pushpa could be released from the hospital immediately; if someone was willing to take her home. Still perplexed by the whole situation, Pushpa's well wishing relative proceeded with the discharge formalities. At this point, now knowing that it was possible to go home, Pushpa was insisting on going home. 


When TOST found out that Pushpa was in the process of being released from the hospital, TOST was furious. TOST lost TOST's temper and antagonistically quarreled  with both Pushpa's well wishing relative and the hospital staff. TOST managed to stop Pushpa being released from the hospital that day.


Meanwhile, Pushpa sobbed uncontrollably, she just wanted to go home, she just wanted to be wanted. The pain of losing her leg was nothing, in comparison to this pain. The family Pushpa had held together and nurtured all these years, simply did not want her. 


The next day TOST continued to argue that Pushpa would not receive any physical therapy if she were to come home. The hospital administration and social services assured Pushpa, Pushpa's relatives, and TOST that Pushpa would receive proper and adequate physical therapy in the comfort of her own home. According to social services this was never an issue, in home physical therapy is normal practice. In fact, social services had been trying in vain to contact TOST for some time now, to set up the appropriate facilities in Pushpa's home, for a disabled person. It seems TOST had intentionally been avoiding social services.Now that there was no doubt about adequate facilites being provided at home by social services,  TOST  had no choice but to allow the hospital discharge to continue.
To be continued...  

Thursday, August 2, 2012

One of Millions Continued Part 10

So Pushpa's amputation had been scheduled. Doctors were cautious and waited for all test results, before proceeding.  Pushpa lost her leg from above her knee, not only did she have to live with this fact, she had to accept it. 


Pushpa received overwhelming support from well wishing relatives, friends, and the community in general. This gave Pushpa hope. Perhaps her family would feel differently towards her now, perhaps they would feel empathy and care, after all, they were her family. Pushpa had looked after them all these years, both physically and financially, perhaps they would finally realize that it was their turn to take care of her. Pushpa genuinely  looked forward to going home from the hospital.


Despite "the one she trusted"(TOST)'s efforts to deter well wishing relatives from outside London visiting Pushpa, Pushpa's well wishing relatives from outside London, chose to visit Pushpa anyway. They were relieved to see the care and attention Pushpa was receiving at the hospital. Yet they were just as disturbed by the lack of care and attention she was receiving from TOST.  TOST seemed to be unaffected by Pushpa's amputation. In fact, Pushpa's well wishing relatives were astounded by TOST' s stone cold attitude and uncompassionate behavior.


What was even more troubling was the fact that TOST was preoccupied with moving Pushpa's finances and assets into TOST's name. TOST's only concern seemed to be Pushpa's material assets not Pushpa. In fact, TOST went so far as to ask Pushpa's well wishing relative to help convince Pushpa to sign over Pushpa's property to TOST. Pushpa's well wishing relative refused to be a part of  such an underhanded tactic. They felt TOST's actions were inappropriate, especially at such a time.  Pushpa was of sound mind and capable of making her own decisions. Therefore Pushpa should not to be forced into doing anything that Pushpa was not comfortable with.
To be continued...